Steph. XVX. Freelance Photographer/Videographer.Animal Rights Activist. Spitting Earth. Bikes.Running.Climbing.Adventures. Music.


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Apr 13, 2014
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Vaycation!

Portland, Oregon: April 15th-21st

Salem, Oregon: 21st-25th

Seattle, Washington: 26th-May 1st

We will be adventuring, hiking, climbing, camping, biking. Where should we go? What are things we must see and must eat?


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Apr 8, 2014
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Without fail, every time a woman tries to coordinate an non-male identifying ride, at least one cis white male dude comments about how it’s not fair. 

Dying of facepalms.

Without fail, every time a woman tries to coordinate an non-male identifying ride, at least one cis white male dude comments about how it’s not fair.

Dying of facepalms.

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Apr 7, 2014
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[img: a photo of 4 copies of the same zine in alternating black and white covers, which are of an upside down beer can with the zine’s title as its label. they are laying on top of a white and neon colored leopard print background.]

You’ve Got a Friend in Pennsylvania #9: Two Years of Sobriety

For the longest time I thought that countless difficulties I faced before I became sober would magically vanish by quitting drinking - but eventually I came to the realizations that I hadn’t made concrete plans for life post-booze, and sobriety wasn’t the super fun root beer keg party I assumed it was going to be. I became cognizant that my issues with sobriety were innately tied into some deep hurts concerning anxiety, trauma, sexual assault, bar culture, and much more. In the 4 sections of this zine, I attempt to take stock of my mistakes and hurts over the past two years, showcase some misconceptions about sobriety that I have come up against, explain my attempts to battle my insecurity over continuing to stick to sobriety, and give some suggested pointers for folks who would like to support their sober friends and community members.

This zine is B&W, 1/4 size, 38 pages, & text heavy. US$2.50 +shipping - price can be negotiated, as can whether you’d like a zine with a black cover or with a white cover + colored pencil details! [Etsy / Tumblr ask / youvegotafriendinpa (at) gmail (dot) com] Note: This zine will debut at The 2014 NYC Feminist Zine Fest (which I am an organizer of!) on Saturday March 1st - any copies not sold there will be mailed out to the first Etsy orders & messaged requests the week of March 3rd. <3

Giving it Up / Intro

I am hoping that creating a space in which I can lend some insight to my sobriety while being honest about its complexities will keep me motivated to engage with difficult emotions and open the door to communicating about the topic with folks who are sober, interested in becoming sober, or empathetic to those who are sober.

I. Two Years Gone By

on a lack of strategy

…I was shocked that I basically had no functional plan for actually coming into contact with alcohol in a safe, healthy, and positive manner. And the only way I could think to deal with it was to shut down completely, walk away, and hope that I’d be able to prepare myself enough in the meantime to pick it up later. But the praxis form of my sobriety wasn’t a boss battle in a video game that I couldn’t seem to beat – it was a huge part of my life. 

on realizing the intersections of sobriety & anxiety

I’m still learning how to be around alcohol without having really intense kneejerk reactions to what’s going on around me. I’ve tried to think, “Would I feel differently about this place or situation if I was also drinking right now?” and I’ve surprised myself with the honest answers I’ve given. Trying to complicate the partier/sober person duality into a spectrum of possibilities has been important in helping me to better mentally separate “This situation/these people are making me uncomfortable” feelings and “My anxiety is what’s mainly perpetuating my discomfort” feelings.

II. Misconceptions of Sobriety

on the idea that sobriety takes “Strength”

Another hard truth I’ve had to come to terms with in recent months is the fact that being labeled “strong” has its own particular set of baggage for me separate from my decision not to drink… I’ve nearly always had a reputation among friends for being reliable, able to handle intense emotional turmoil without showing distress, and a resource to turn to for assistance with nearly any problem. “Strong” has consistently been the primary adjective those close to me have used to describe me, and while it used to give me a surge of pride, it now has basically devolved into another way to say, “You don’t really ask me for support and I like that in a friend.” 

on assuming sober people will always speak up about their sensitivities

Placing the expectation on sober people to come forward assumes a degree of trust in the interest and ability of others to respect their wishes and needs, and I find myself in very few situations in which I feel trusting enough of the people drinking around me who are making me uncomfortable. 

III. No Use Crying Over Spilt Booze

on making “self-care” a daily routine instead of a special occurrence

It might be an unpopular opinion, but at this point in my life I’m so stressed out all of the time that my special self-treatment activities need to be constant and habitual, not only when I’m feeling down. I’ve questioned whether messages like, “It’s okay to not do anything but lie around and watch Netflix once in a while!” end up enabling avoidance behavior due to the open-ended nature of the “once in a while” time frame. In the past I’ve told myself, “Well, there are lots of other people out there who don’t respond to e-mails or phone calls and just sleep a lot when they’re stressed out too!” each and every time I’ve put off important tasks, which was way more often than just “once in a while.”

on pushing through the negative aspects of sobriety

While I still would like to take some time to figure out how to breach the subject of my sobriety with other people, I don’t want to stop having conversations with myself about what I need. I want to challenge myself to be proud of the small victories while making room for tackling even bigger ones. I want to become more adept at seeking out the positive aspects and effects of my sobriety instead of focusing only on the negative ones. I want to be more intentional and mindful in other aspects of my life, not in relation to my sobriety.

IV. Supporting Sober Folks

on not making sobriety or “not wanting to party” the butt of any jokes

Making jokes about such a weighty issue means you don’t have to consciously think about how that topic affects nearly every aspect of your life all of the time and can come off as dismissive, condescending, and blatantly offensive. It can also be inadvertently taken as a form of peer pressure, and for folks with a history of sexual assault intertwined with drinking, it can even feel like a reminder of non-consensual actions taken against that person. I believe that making light of sobriety is bro culture in action because it privileges the experiences and desires of a select few over the well-being of those that feel silenced and alienated in certain spaces that are hostile to them. 

on asking open-ended questions to establish trust with sober people

What kinds of things have been successful at helping someone feel positive about their sobriety? What are some ways in which they feel supported in their sobriety by friends, family members, community members, and so on? Are there times when they are more capable or less capable of being around alcohol, talking about alcohol, or socializing in general? Are there certain needs they’ll have when you drink around them? Are there specific things they don’t feel comfortable talking about with non-sober people, or will they let you know as the time arises?

Highly recommended, especially for anyone making decisions about events and whether they will be sober spaces…and for any human who ever interacts with other humans.

This zine is currently en route to my house. \(^O^)/

I need this.

yay i’m glad to see this is getting circulated 

This is awesome. So much of this rings true. The first year of being sober (god, the year that stuck, womp) was really hard. A ton of people were incredibly disrespectful, would shove/spill beer on me and would bully me/peer pressure me to be in bars/would tell me how much less fun I was. It still can be hard especially because all my coworkers are really into dancing and going to bars and I just genuinely don’t enjoy it. So glad something like this exists for support <3

(Source: inmidnightblood, via xkimberlyx)


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Apr 4, 2014
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reidhaithcock:

Spitting Earth, O’brien’s pub, Allston, MA

Reidhaithcock.com | Facebook

REID YOU ARE SO AMAZING THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR BEING THERE! <3 <3 <3 Also these pics are amazing!!! Also playing in a hardcore band rules would recommend to everyone. 


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Apr 2, 2014
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Kiki Smith - Lilith, 1994 - Bronze, silicon, and glass.

“In medieval Jewish lore, Lilith was Adam’s first wife.  When she demanded to be Adam’s equal, she was evicted from the Garden of Eden.  Lilith flew away to the demon world, replaced by the more submissive Eve.  Smith catches us off guard with Lilith’s pose and placement.  Most sculptures receive our gaze passively, but Lilith stares back with piercing brown eyes, ready to pounce.”

hella dope

THANK YOU

my mother told me this story over and over when I was little

"Always be Lilith, never Eve"

"Always be Lilith, never Eve"

Yesssssssssss. I shall be Lilith.

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Apr 1, 2014
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The only two photos I got of Curmudgeon during Smash it Dead. Here’s Ryan RIGHT after he dislocated his knee…and he’s still playing…!!

Awesome set, awesome weekend. 


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Mar 30, 2014
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Leather Daddy at Smash it Dead. I didn’t take very many pictures this year, but it’s so rad how many awesome bands came from near and far to support BARCC. 

If anyone has any photos of Spitting Earth, please send them my way!!! 


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Mar 23, 2014
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I’m going to need all of the dirty soy chais.

Just booked my first real vacation since 2009 in three weeks to the Pacific Northwest. I play music with the cutest, coolest, kindest, most amazing people. Shows are happening very soon. Adding extra hours work to balance out the trip to vacation land. Meeting with Boston Public School in the next few weeks to pass Meatless Mondays. Running again. Shaking myself out of this week downward decline of unproductivity/bizarro funk. 

Whew, hello busy busy work week plus music plus fitness plus events plus being a majestic social butterfly. Sorry if I ever seem sleepy. 


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Mar 21, 2014
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I&#8217;m so fortunate to be friends with such a unique person. My friend, Ryan Shapiro, is upping his stand against the information act by extending his lawsuits to not only the FBI but the CIA. I took his last photo that circulated throughout the internet when his FBI case was getting a ton of press coverage. Last night we photographed a photo that will accompany his conversation about his current lawsuits towards the CIA and their textual treatment of Nelson Mandela as a straight-up terrorist. I don&#8217;t think I&#8217;m done playing around with this image yet, but here&#8217;s the first draft. "I want this photo to say, I&#8217;m laughing at the joke, but the question is, is the joke about you?&#8221;Also, my neighbor who finds me deplorable was soothed and wooed by this gentleman, after asking him if he was alligned &#8220;with that so and so Snowden who lives in China now&#8221;. He has special yuppie-whispering powers it was a true delight to watch. 

I’m so fortunate to be friends with such a unique person. My friend, Ryan Shapiro, is upping his stand against the information act by extending his lawsuits to not only the FBI but the CIA. I took his last photo that circulated throughout the internet when his FBI case was getting a ton of press coverage. Last night we photographed a photo that will accompany his conversation about his current lawsuits towards the CIA and their textual treatment of Nelson Mandela as a straight-up terrorist. 

I don’t think I’m done playing around with this image yet, but here’s the first draft. 

"I want this photo to say, I’m laughing at the joke, but the question is, is the joke about you?”

Also, my neighbor who finds me deplorable was soothed and wooed by this gentleman, after asking him if he was alligned “with that so and so Snowden who lives in China now”. He has special yuppie-whispering powers it was a true delight to watch. 


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Mar 18, 2014
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Today I was asked to photograph Humane Lobby Day for the Humane Society. Two hundred people gathered at the state house to hear local senators and state representatives talk about amazing new animal protection bills are on the table this year. Each person got to meet with their local reps to discuss their concerns with some of this up coming legislation. How cool is that? 

The animal rights movement is growing. It’s incredibly exciting.